CONFLICT MEDIATION RESOLUTION MATERIALS

FOUNDATIONAL CONFLICT RESOLUTION BOOKS AND OTHER RESOURCES

Books

Ken Sande, (2004) The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict, Grand Rapids,

Michigan, Baker Books. This book is a widely-used resource for helping individual Christians and congregations work through conflict to reconciliation using Scripture as a guide. It describes a facilitative process that can be used by pastors and laypersons. It helps one see where they are on what the author calls, “The Slippery Slope,” and what help might be needed in order to move towards reconciliation. It can be purchased on Amazon, or other sites.

Cost: $7 to $15.00, depending on whether used or new. Kindle version: $9.99.

 

Barthel, Tara, and David Edling, (2012) Redeeming Church Conflict: Turning Crisis into Compassion and

Care, Grand Rapids, Michigan, Baker Books. Every church will experience conflicts. If properly approached, church conflicts can be used for spiritual growth for both individuals and entire churches. The authors of this book take the reader through the Acts 15 model of decision making in relationship to conflict giving persons involved a clear, godly way forward into redemptive reconciliation. This book can be purchased on Amazon or other sites.

Cost: $1.60 to $16.99, depending on whether used or new. Kindle version: $9.99.

 

Susek, Ron, (1999) Firestorm: Preventing and Overcoming Church Conflicts. Grand Rapids, Michigan,

Baker Books. This book traces through the stages which conflicts generally burn like firestorms,

and provides practical suggestions for dealing with each phase. It can be purchased on Amazon

or other sites.

Cost: $1.00 to $18.00, depending on whether used or new. Kindle: $9.99.

 

Newberger, Kenneth, (2000) Hope in the Face of Conflict: Making Peace with Others the Way God

Makes Peace With Us. The author of this book gives his perspective on how to use Matthew 18 in resolving church conflict and also a process for working towards reconciliation. It can be purchased on 

Amazon or other online sites.

Cost: $10.50 to $20.00.

 

Van Ypren, Jim (2002) Making Peace: a Guide to Overcoming Church Conflict, Chicago, Illinois, Moody Press. The author of this book shares how churches become unhealthy and how God wants to heal them so they can become thriving communities of faith. The unique part about this book is its description of “becoming a redemptive community,” “seven calls to repentance,” and “forming a safe place group.” It can be purchased on Amazon.

Cost: $5.00 to $15.00 depending on whether used or new. Kindle $9.59.

 

Other resources:

www.peacemaker.net is an excellent website for downloadable articles as well as a listing of available training.

www.LMPeaceCenter.org is an excellent website for a listing of basic mediation training along with training for pastors and state and national leaders.

Dr. Christopher Cottrell is a professional church peacemaker and mediator with hundreds of hours of training and experience in church mediation and also court and community mediation. He can provide conflict intervention as well as training to church staff and leaders. Email him at crosspointmediation@yahoo.com for a package of available services and costs.

 

FUNDAMENTALS OF MEDIATION FOR LEAD PASTORS

Along with the books listed above:

Fisher, Roger and William Ury, (2011, 3rd Edition), Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving, New York, New York, Penguin Books. This is a must read for Lead Pastors and Church Leaders who are trying to navigate the deep weeds of staff and congregational conflict. and who want to, or need to, plumb the depths of conflict in order to work for mutually acceptable and appropriate resolution. This book is one of the main sources of most mediation books today. Getting to Yes is a concise, direct, step-by-step process, a proven strategy, for coming to mutually acceptable agreements in every sort of conflict-whether it involves parents and children, neighbors, bosses and employees, customers or corporations, or church staff and leadership. This resource is based on studies and conferences conducted by the Harvard Negotiation Project, a group that deals continually with all levels of conflict resolution, including the Salt II negotiation. It can be purchased on Amazon or other online sites.

Cost: Approximately $10.00. Kindle: $7.99.

Grenny, Joseph, Ron McMillan, Kerry Patterson, and Al Swtzler (2002), Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Chicago, Illinois, McGraw Hill. The authors help the reader learn skills for communicating best when it matters most. This book is packed with the necessary tools to handle the most difficult and critically important conversations as a Lead Pastor. The book is another must-have resource for every lead pastor who desires to gain skills for working through the deep weeds of staff and congregational conflict

Conflict Coaching: Is your church or organization experiencing broken relationships, an out-of-sync staff, or hostility among members in the body of Christ? Are there problems that are causing people to become disillusioned about the vision and work of your organization? A Conflict Coach can help you think clearly about the conflict, ask the right questions, seek the right resources, and count the costs of whether you should seek an outside conciliator or mediator in working for reconciliation of the conflict.

Dr. Christopher Cottrell is a specialized and trained Mediator and Conflict Coach who can help you assess your conflictual situation and determine possible steps towards reconciliation. An initial 30 minute call is free. Call him at 937-621-2162 (cell) or 740-990-9589 for this initial call and to inquire about additional services and costs.